Gathering Guide

Speed friending

Meet people through a series of brief, friendly conversations. Quick introductions offer starting points for conversations you may want to continue.

1. Plan your gathering

Choose the format first, then set the date, capacity and duration around what it needs. The examples below are sources of practical experience, not requirements for your gathering.

2. Prepare to host

Confirm the venue’s permission, usable layout, sound conditions, access arrangements and setup/clearing window. Set participant capacity from the activity and available leadership, then count all hosts and helpers within the room limit.

Prepare the materials and rehearse the parts you will lead. Confirm [materials supplied], [what participants bring] and [host/helper responsibilities] before publishing. Use original or properly authorized material. For minors, arrange the host organization’s safeguarding and guardian requirements.

Identity and materials: Create an original timed conversation format and question cards, with opt-outs and a clear friendship focus. Do not copy a commercial organizer’s name, branded card deck or scripted kit.

Venue request

Hello [venue contact], I’m planning a speed-friending gathering on [date], from [start time] to [end time], for [number of participants] participants and [number of hosts/helpers] hosts or helpers. We would need a room with space for facing seats and an unobstructed route between conversation stations, plus [number of tables] tables with two facing chairs at each, plus [number of additional chairs] chairs for hosts and anyone pausing between conversations; [total number of chairs] chairs altogether. Would this space and seating arrangement be available for our gathering? What can our group do to support your business as well?

3. Create your Eventbrite listing

  1. Open a new event

    Create an event on Eventbrite

  2. Event title

    Speed friending: quick introductions
  3. Short summary

    Short, platonic conversations with optional prompts and time to keep talking.
  4. Date, time and location

  5. Event description

    We’ll begin with [confirmed length and number or format of conversations], using [pair or group rotation method], then have [confirmed open-conversation arrangement]. Prompts are optional, and you can pass or pause. Contact exchange is your choice. When: [day, date, start–end time and time zone] Where: [confirmed venue, address, room and host location] Audience: [age range, participation requirements and any guardian arrangements] Materials: [what is provided and what to bring] Cost: [total price including fees and any required purchase] Booking: [RSVP link, capacity/waitlist and cancellation arrangements] Access: [confirmed seating, route and activity-specific communication/sensory arrangements] Host and questions: [name/contact]
  6. Set up Eventbrite tickets

    Ticket name

    General admission
    If charging for tickets

    Review currency, fees, refund terms and payment/payout requirements before taking payment.

  7. Signup details

  8. Image and final check

4. Invite people

Announce your gathering

Speed friending: quick introductions. Join us at [place] on [date], [time/time zone]. Short, platonic conversations with optional prompts and time to keep talking. Details, cost and booking: [link].

A welcoming invitation

What is a place nearby you enjoy? Everyday questions can be a starting point, and another topic is welcome. [Date/place]. Details, cost and booking: [link].

A closer look

Quick introductions are just the beginning. We’ll explain each partner change and leave room for conversations to continue. [Date/place]. Details, cost and booking: [link].

5. Host the gathering

  1. Use two facing rows or numbered stations.
  2. One side stays; the other moves one seat in the same direction, wrapping from the end to the beginning.
  3. Rehearse the move before starting.
  4. This mixes people across the two sets, not everyone with everyone.
  5. Offer stationary positions and bring partners to them.
  6. Choose an audible and visible transition cue, allow a thought to finish, then check stations before restarting.
  7. For an odd number, explain a trio or a pause station and redraw the next move so no one is left waiting unexpectedly.
  8. Finish structured introductions with optional open conversation; do not collect or circulate a contact-sharing list; participants choose what they exchange.

At the close, thank participants and clear the space as agreed. Do not add anyone to a mailing list or share their contact details without their choice.

Sources and practical references

  • Camas Public Library , Pairs use two- to three-minute conversations, optional prompts and contact-exchange time afterward.
  • Pierce County Library , Two-minute conversations within a two-hour event with prompts, games and crafts.
  • CU Boulder University Libraries , Intercultural event planned five-minute rounds, extended to eight, then later tried free interaction.